Relationships are a complex topic; and yet we are expected to go out there to the world and figure it out on our own. Experiencing relationships without any proper preparation or guidance could cause pain and emotional scaring. From an early age we are exposed to different messages about what relationships are all about, most are not the healthiest. We watch our parents and subconsciously register in our minds what relationships are all about. We read or watch old legends like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty, and get the idea that love is when a man saves a helpless maiden in distress. We read romance novels or watch Hollywood romantic movies and get the idea that all romantic participants should look like Barbie and Ken.
The climax of most familiar love stories is the wedding, and then they end with the closure of “And they lived happily ever after.” In reality, a growing number of couples experience post-wedding depression. That happens after all the excitement of wooing, planning, and celebrating fade away and everyday life kicks into first gear. This is where a big portion of relationship work starts. But how many couples really think of their relationship as work that requires skills, effort, and emotional intelligence? Most think that somehow things will work out, and they only consider looking for counseling when there is a big crisis.
When I interviewed Imago relationship therapist Sulfiati Magnuson she said, “I do have the fantasy of being able to teach in high schools and colleges, so young people can have good communication skills, the courage to be vulnerable, and be realistic about relationships from an early age.” I wish our education system would consider relationship education just as important, if not more so, as other learned topics. When I created Making a Match, it was clear to me that making good and successful matches should start by educating people about relationships. I believe that when people are well educated and aware of all the aspects of relationships, they can make better choices and lead a more satisfying personal life together, and on their own. Since the early days of my blog, I have been searching for experts to share their wisdom about relationships. Now I use the monthly meetings of Making a Match to bring those experts to the community.
If you live in the Seattle area please join the Making a Match relationship seminar on Tuesday, 8/8 from 7-9pm at the Redmond Library.
Treating Relationships Like a Career: Applying Business Strategies to Personal Life
Presented by business coach Hannah Pelley, founder of Solutions for Impact.
Everyone is invited and encouraged to join, whether in a relationship or not. Participation is free of charge.
For more details and to register please visit Making a Match website